insecurities

There is something about being in a new relationship that brings about all of your insecurities. Things can seem almost perfect, but the second you get some time alone you begin to think too much and read into things that aren't there.

Whats worse is that I know that Nathan has these moments too; but it makes you feel rubbish that you haven't shown them how you feel- but then if you put all your cards on the table then you set yourself up to be hurt.

I know I sound like I am going round in circles, and that I am reading into things. But I don't want to mess this one up. I like him and I think he likes me. When we are together it seems great. Its when we are apart that I worry.

I worry that when we are not together what he is thinking - whether he focuses on the good or the bad, whether he thinks about the things I have done or said that in his mind are wrong. Does he think about me like I think about him (see previous post) or does he just not think at all?

When you are in a new relationship, you also have the challenges of finding out about their ex's and where it all went wrong, without sounding like you are prying. I don't care what anyone says - women want to know about a guys ex's and how those relationships are going to effect your own relationship with them. I know from my own experiences that past relationships have a definite effect on those current - issues of trust and insecurities generated by ex's have already cropped up in my relationship with Nathan - and that's before we are even in a "official" relationship.

The media tells us that men are attracted to confident women, so I guess, until we get to the "comfort zone", I'll have to keep these things inside.